weddings, gay marriage, Amendment 10-A, clergy, Facebook Group, Civil Rights, Love, Discrimination
I fully and completely believe that God created us all equally in the divine image. In each of us is a reflection of our Creator. None are more capable of living into that reflection, none are less capable. That is exactly what I hear in the creation stories of Genesis when they tell us that humans were formed in God's image and that God breathed life into humans. To be human is to be formed by God, in the image of God, and given life by the breath of God. All of us. No exceptions.

Today (May 10, 2011), the denomination to which I belong (PCUSA) has taken a very large step in recognizing the intrinsic value of all people. Technically, all we really did was pass an amendment to our constitution (The Book of Order), Amendment 10-A. What it actually does is give more governance of ordination standards to local governing bodies. That seems innocuous enough, doesn't it? You would think so, but this has caused some disagreement and division in our denomination, and I understand that some churches have already voted to leave the denomination while still others are considering doing so. Why all the tension and division? It's the pink elephant in the room.

While this change in constitution is about more than just the issue of homosexuality, the tension and division are because it opens the door to the ordination of gay folk. Oddly, it also opens it to the ordination to those having sex outside of marriage (as well as other things), but I've not heard many people raising a ruckus over that... it's about "the gays."

I hate to see the division in our denomination, but I am glad to see us taking so seriously the biblical reality that we are all created equally in God's image. I do have to say though, while I am glad to see today come, I am dissatisfied with were we are. As an ordained minister in a denomination that will soon allow for the ordination of LGBTQ folk (even though we've actually been doing it forever), I cannot officiate the marriage of a same sex couple. The state will not allow or recognize it.

So, today I make a new commitment. I tried to be a voice in the struggle to change our Book of Order, that's why today's passage of Amendment 10-A pleases me. I happen to believe, however, that it is the Church's duty to be advocates and partners with those who are not treated in a way which recognizes that they are created equally in God's image. While we have made great strides today, I believe we have just begun, particularly as clergy. With that in mind, today I commit to sign no more marriage certificates until I can sign the marriage certificate of any two people who wish to commit their lives to each other before God regardless of their gender.

The wedding I participate in this Saturday will be my last to officiate. I fully recognize that it will be difficult and there will ultimate be those who, for varying reasons, will be disappointed in my decision, but I cannot sign another wedding certificate knowing that it represents a system that intentionally excludes people who I understand to be equally created in God's image. To be clear, my commitment is to no longer officiate a wedding until I can officiate all weddings. I will still participate in weddings since I can do that for all people already. 

I also issue this challenge to ALL clergy regardless of denomination: do the same. If you are not clergy, send this blog post to your minister.  If you don't have a minister just send it to a minister, any minister. I've created a Facebook page where we can gather and publicly take a stand. It's is also a place where those who don't happen to be clergy can stand in support with us. Here's the link to Until ALL Can Wed's Facebook page. Please 'like' it in support and in taking a stand.

If we collectively stop signing wedding certificates, it would be a statement to states across the US. Imagine each County Clerk's office flooded with people who can't find a minister to wed them because the state won't recognize the desires of same sex couples who simply desire to have the same rights as them. I think it would be powerful. So, I challenge my fellow clergy to take a stand with me and our LGBT brothers and sisters. 

Alone I can make a statement; together we can make a difference. 

If you are willing to stand with us, please let me know in the comment section of this post and by joining the FB page. Thank you. 

 


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Jim
05/10/2011 13:46

I tried to give my wife the line, "I'm not getting married until all people can get married!" But for some reason, that didn't fly with her. ;-)


Seriously though, I look forward to that day too. I have a gay cousin that I would love to go to his wedding someday. And I have GLBT friends from college who are still in relationships with their college sweethearts (longer than many of my straight friends), but still can't get married. I'd love to goto their weddings too!

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Chris
05/10/2011 13:47

This is wonderful! How couragous and compassionate of you to stand up for equality. Thank you.

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Rev Maria
05/10/2011 13:55

Welcome to the club! I made that decision - and was supported in it by my congregation - the day Proposition 8 went into effect in California. After having legally performed Christian Marriages for same sex couples during that brief time when I could, I realized I could no longer be faithful to my calling to serve all of God's people and yet discriminate between persons in that regard.

Blessings on your work.

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05/10/2011 13:55

Mark, my partner and I are lesbian pastors and we applaud your decision, and we applaud your calling on other clergy to join you. Straight allies are friends indeed, and it is only when enough straight voices join with LGBTQ voices that things will truly change. We thank you for being such a voice.
Peace,
Marian and Julie, Pastors
Cathedral of Hope Salt Lake City

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PHILIP GURRIERI
05/10/2011 13:58

Marriage by the “state” or a “Justice of the Law” is a Civil Union never meant to be a marriage. The government has no authority to perform a marriage, all those that were "married" by the state "Justice of the Peace" in actuality have a "Civil Union" guaranteeing the rights as written into what barely still is OUR Bill of Rights. Marriage is a Spiritual Bond that is granted by the Infinite Mother of us all or what ever one chooses to call that energy force.
There is a tremendous income for the churches once it is acknowledged that in actuality the Civil marriage is actually a Civil Union. Should the Supreme Court say otherwise is to acknowledge that the government of corporate United States is a Theocracy with that "Seat" being a Throne and its occupant being either a Religionist or a secularist with "non-family" values. Ironically, even then President Jimmy Carter was seen as a secularist a.k.a. a Religious person; religionists say that Jesus is CAESAR Christ of HADES and an erroneous member of the "Republican Family Values" Party!

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PHILIP GURRIERI
05/10/2011 14:00

Back to that "Marriage" question. Many gay couples have already gone thru the religious ceremony now they need the protection of the Civil Union Contract and all those that "think" they were married in a "Civil" ceremony need to go to the "church" of their choice & marry!
Diabolical religionists of the fanatical Right are the True Terrorists of Huemanity & it is about time that the Religious speak up and be counted Down Here One Nation under God, while God is in Heaven and __________ rules down here. The significance of your Significant Other, heterosexual or otherwise, is that it makes that Spouse IMPORTANT and harmoniously equal.
A Civil Union is open to all regardless of nationality, religion, race nor physical persuasion; it is the same standards by which huemanity was once guided to live in harmony with talents to share. Only the fanatical crusaders for the fanatical ‘Born-Again’ Lords of Christ see otherwise and are constantly Preying for Peace in Piece in order to separate & conquer; the buck stops here & now!

We must declare ourselves the GREEN interdependent movement TransVolutionizing into Trillion Dollar GREEN interdependent HEALTHY economies. Now, not the unreachable future!
The former USA has become an orphan; let us guide her FORWARD towards the GREEN_DOOR into huemanity in reality with actuality!

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PHILIP GURRIERI
05/10/2011 14:04

As the the G*D question:

WITHOUT WOMaNKIND - THE WOULD BE NO BOY'S...... TOOK 2 MOMMY'S TO BRING WE THE FIRST BOY'S INTO WHAT WAS THEN "HEAVEN ON EARTH"......!

EVERY WOMaN ON HER JOURNEY TO BEING A MOTHER BECOME OUR FATHER - THIS IS ABSOLUTE - BEFORE SHE BECOME OUR MOTHER AS THE VERY fat PREGNANT-HER! **_**

ABSOLUTELY NO "HYPERBOL" IN THESE WORDS!

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kb
05/10/2011 14:23

Good for you! And thank you!!


BTW, your links to the FB page seem to be broken. They point to

http://until-all-can-wed/171672806224571

which is not a valid web address.

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05/10/2011 14:53

Thanks KB. Fixed those a little while ago. Hopefully they are working for you now.

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Dwayne Mason
05/10/2011 17:14

Thanks Mark, for your brave stand and your bravest blog yet.

Thank you for having the courage to stand up for what is right, not popular.

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05/10/2011 20:01

I am in my living room, where I am serving as a full-time missionary in Guatemala City, and giving you a standing ovation. Thank you, Mark... Thank you for recognizing that ALL of God's children have the right to love, not just the straight ones.

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05/14/2011 18:00

I am proud to know you as a clergy brother in the same presbytery. There is one reason I still claim the right to officiate at a wedding though: for my grandchildren. I couldn't turn them down. And if any of them should choose a same-sex marriage, I would do that in the blink of an eye -- what will happen? Hey, I'm retired. Will I also get fired??

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05/14/2011 20:27

Jean I completely understand. It is entirely likely that my own daughter will get married before things change. That will be a very difficult day. However, I have become more than convicted. I love my daughter dearly, but this is what I must do. She knows my heart and will understand. Thank you for your support. I understand your perspective, but I hope my effort and the efforts of others will mean that if one of you grandchildren (or one of my children) want a same-sex marriage, it will be recognized in NC. Let us pray that it will be so. PEACE!

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Alicia Cram
05/14/2011 23:42

It is so rare to find a vocal clergyperson who is for equality, for the things that, from my understanding, Christ taught and believed in. I am not a religious person. I'm very spiritual. I don't believe in anything in particular, not part of any religious affiliation, and don't label myself with any particular belief system, more of an eclectic. However my interaction with people of monotheistic faith has been mixed. Sadly its been tainted by those who are vocal in the most negative way, those who teach hate to their followers, and damn those who aren't their perfect straight follower. You bring refreshing intelligence, thought, passion, and honesty. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for showing that you are a wonderful human being who has the best interest of your fellow human at heart. Again, Thank you, and all blessings upon you, from every place they can come.
With love,
Alicia Cram, Maine USA

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05/15/2011 11:16

Thank you, Pastor Mark.
You do us proud...us Christians, us straight, us gay, us bi, us loving the best we can folk.

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Rowland Williams
05/21/2011 13:19

I have a more basic question. I hope you will indulge me and give me some insight.

I was hard core conservative Christian in my teens. In my twenties, I became a party boy. I migrated back to a sort of "free form" Christianity in my late twenties/early thirties. This whole Camping rapture thing grabbed my attention and got me asking if I shouldn't get more serious about my faith. But I'm not who I was in my teens. I'm socially liberal. I'm generally more tolerant. To my question...

I want to get back to my faith. Some things are basic. Humility. Compassion. Forgiveness. But I'm curious about how I reconcile a seriousness about faith and my recent/current acceptance that gay rights is correct. There are verses that are pretty straightforward relative to homosexuality, and they aren't supportive. Without twisting the bible all around, is there a scriptural basis for the acceptance of people despite their sexuality? I want there to be. But as I look at life through some more serious eyes, I also want to be honest with myself per the bible's view on this topic.

I'd like some input. Any takers?

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05/25/2011 18:26

Rowland,
I suggest that you start reading John Shore's blog: http://www.johnshore.com/. He often addresses the questions you are asking. I was never raised with a literal reading of the bible (I'm Lutheran), but one point I would make to you is that the bible says a lot of things that don't make sense, and it is an ancient document. We do not keep slaves any more (thank God) or practice polygamy, for example. How can we cling fast to a couple of verses in Leviticus while ignoring others? The bible is a living, breathing document--and one that should not be taken literally, but symbolically.

And first and foremost is the law of love--we are called to love our neighbors as Christians. If Jesus were alive today, who would he be hanging out with? Those who are rejected by our mainstream society--the homeless, the mentally ill, and the GLBT folks.

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ErwinG
05/25/2011 23:45

Rowland,

In the Bible we have many, many locations where we are commanded to love one another. For one example of this concept, read 1st John 4:7-8, and 9-21.

Remember learning John 3:16 when you were growing up? Examine that scripture again. (Forgive my KJV memory) "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son that WHOSOEVER . . ." Now, ask youself. Who is "WHOSOEVER"? Are you included in that? Are the Baptist and Pentecostals included in that? Are the gay people included in that? ". . .WHOSOEVER believeth in Him shall be saved."

All Christ asks is that we love God and love our neighbor as ourselves. I know many gay people who love God so very dearly that you can see it in their eyes when they sing the hymns and praise songs.

The other thing you need to know about the Bible is that it is a history book. Many of the laws that were written there fall into two categories (1) moral code and (2) civil code. Moral code would seem to apply to all time. Civil code, on the other hand, is very different from one generation to another, so changes in the civil code would not only be acceptable, but expected.

To take a different tack, are you aware that eunuchs were not permitted in the Tabernacle or Temple? They were considered "incomplete", "imperfect" and therefore were not allowed to worship in the Temple. This could not possibly be a moral law -- it could only be a civil law. Now read Acts 8:26-40. Notice that after hearing the confirmation that Christ was the one of whom the great prophets spoke, the Eunuch saw a pool of water in the desert and asked if there was anything keeping him from being Baptised (as a believer). Philip Baptised him there. Now if the Eunuch could not worship in the Temple and that was "moral" law, then the Eunuch would not have been accepted for Baptism.

Therefore, I believe that the specific anti-gay Levitical laws to also be "civil" in nature, and not part of the "moral" code that God was putting forward.

I hope I haven't rambled on to much and that this will help you in some small way. I also join with Marie in encouraging you to read John Shore's blog: http://www.johnshore.com/ .

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Christie
09/17/2011 11:13

For Rowland and anyone else with those questions:

"What I believe the Bible really says about homosexuality"
By John S. Dixon

http://www.religioustolerance.org/dixon_03.htm



This essay has really helped me understand the scripture usually used to condemn homosexuality.. and that it really isn't condemning homosexuality at all.

Peace

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Sharri Johnson
01/22/2012 10:00

Count me in - I have a Lesbian sister and a Lesbian step-daughter, both in long-term relationships!

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Tony
03/18/2012 15:15

I, as a surrendered Christian surrendered to Christ lives a celebate lifestyle to honor God with my body because my body is no longer my own to do with it as I please to fullfill the passions and desires of the flesh. If I have to crucify my flesh then that means homosexuals have to too. But its such an honor to kill the flesh for Christ. You are a new creation in Christ the old life is buried with Christ What kind of message are you sending the congregation to ordain openly homosexuals and wed them?.. That reeks of hypocrisy and of the world and opens the doors for other people who struggle with sin to keep living in it taking what Christ did on the Cross as nothing special so you can keep living in rebelion to God.

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05/01/2012 13:53

Thank you, Mark. This is beautiful. I support gay marriage.

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Mickey
09/18/2012 22:27

wow.. this is wonderful. God really have His way to make this life equal for every single of His child. It reminds me of what He has done until now. First He made woman equal to every man, then black to white, and now the gays. He loves us, more than anything in this world. LGBTQ should have an equal life like us and i believe this world will come to a great balance. because, you know, we are the one who made them hurt, confused, and afraid. They choose to live in a closet, lied to everyone, lied to themselves, eventually, lied to God. If we can embrace them, they will find their confidence, live a positive life, loving others, loving God even more, and yes, these will bring a great balance to the world.

if anyone wonders, what kind of positive life would gays have, just check this video. Neil and David on Oprah's next chapter. This is truly show a modern life, modern family, and yes I prefer to have them as my neighbor rather than the psycho who would stalk on your lawn.

http://delishows.com/oprahs-next-chapter-season-1-episode-21-at-home-neil-patrick-harris-his-fiance-david-burtka-their-twins.html

hope this change a wrong perspective of all people about gays. They deserve a great family, a great future and to be loved. PEACE!

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Diogo
10/09/2012 14:39

Eu estou com vocês. Apoio do Brasil.

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